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[SIZE 3][B][COLOR orange]If you are a man or woman interested in CBT and or genitalia torture, giving and/or receiving please come take a look at a new group here on alt, [group 26480]. This group was new as of late evening 6/21/07. We seem to have a great group of friendly "playful" people. Come and join the fun, feel free to bring you cam or cyber fantasies. All are welcome to be safe and have fun![/COLOR][/B][/SIZE]
[SIZE 3][COLOR blue]Catori's cobra is my partner. I am not able to express how blessed I am to have found him. After three years we are finally able to be together. I recently moved to CA to be with him.[/COLOR]
[COLOR silver]I am a Dominant sadomasochist. I have been learning and active in the lifestyle since Feb of 2006.
I think of SSC (Safe Sane Consensual)as a crock of you know what. I
do not see much of anything as "safe". I tend to go more with RACK
(Risk Aware Consensual Kink) policies.
When it comes to me being interested in masochist things I find that
I prefer heavy floggers, and breasts and nipple torture. When it comes
to Dominant I love CBT and have more expedience with that then
anything else. I have done some "spanking" with hands, paddles,
canes, slappers, crop, floggers and a few other items.
I have enjoyed wax play, needle, blood, knife play (very mild knife play), feminization and some verbal and physical humiliation from the dominant position.
I find that I am very drawn to edge play. Blood and tears are
something that I crave to see when playing with a maso/sub. I love to
hear them beg me to stop or promise things if I will stop. As we all
know this is not a safe word and only gets me to laugh at them and
tease them for it. I do not get to play this heavy often but I truly
enjoy it when I do.
Anything that you want to know, ask, I am pretty open about anything
and everything. I am not easily offended by questions. Not too much
that I consider too private to share either..[/COLOR]
[COLOR limegreen]I have a variety of interests within the BDSM community and without.
Some of them within the community are; CBT, blood, knife, needle, flogging, bondage, wax, CD, cling wrap, cuffs, nipple torture, sensory deprivation, genitalia torture, flogging, tease and denial.[/COLOR]
[COLOR deeppink]Outside of the community I enjoy watching UFC, and no I do not like the fake stuff, just UFC lol.
I enjoy picnics and parks with my , reading horror and romance novels and of course surfing and chatting on-line. I love music and watch the occasional movie here and there.[/COLOR]
I currently have two collared male submissives, they are Catori's cobra and Catori's CD jamie. One sub in consideration, Catoris pleasure.
[COLOR red]Red Flags for Kinky People
"Red flag" is a term to describe a personal trait or behavior that is common in people who are harmful to their partners. When getting to know someone online it is very important that you look for these flags. When you see these red flags slow down or stop the relationship. Understand that none of these red flags alone are definitely a sign of a bad person. They only tend to be an indicator of a problem situation. The more you see these red flags, the more you are at risk. Many of these red flags can apply to both unhealthy Doms and subs. These recommendations are to help you avoid getting into an abusive relationship. If you think you or someone you know is in an abusive relationship please contact somebody.
Red Flags:
1) Tries to separate you from your friends, family or BDSM community.
2) Avoids talking about personal details. Gets mad when you ask or
quickly ends the conversation or answers questions with questions.
3) Has no BDSM references or friends you can talk to.
4) Gets angry when you ask for references or ask around about them.
5) Is inconsistent with details about themselves.
6) Does not give you their home and work phone number at the
appropriate time.
7) Only communicates with you at strange hours and gets mad if you try to contact them at other times.
Criticizes the BDSM community and refuses to participate,
especially if they never were part of it.
9) Consistently breaks promises.
10) Always finds excuses for not meeting.
11) Always puts blame on others for things going wrong.
12) Does not take personal responsibility.
13) Has bad relationships with most or all of their family members.
14) Pressures you into doing things you do not want to do.
15) Does not respect your limits, negotiations or contracts.
16) Pushes you into a D/s relationship too fast.
17) Falls in love with you way too fast and swears undying love
before even meeting you.
1 Hides behind their D/s authority and says that their authority
should not be questioned.
19) Tries to make you feel guilty for not being good enough. Says
that you are not a "True" sub.
20) Loses control of their emotions in arguments and regresses to
yelling, name-calling and blame.
21) Puts you down in front of other people.
22) Turns instantly on their friends, going from best friend to
arch enemy at the drop of a hat.
23) Treats you lovingly and respectfully one day and then harshly
and accusingly the next.
24) Goes to great lengths to get revenge on people.
25) Lies or withholds information. Cheats on you or is overly
jealous.
26) Will not discuss what your possible future relationship could
be like.
27) Tries to keep you in the dark about what might happen next in
the relationship.
28 Does not respect your feelings, rights, or opinions.
29) Belittles your ideas.
30) Blames you for your hurt feelings.
31) Abuses alcohol or other drugs.
32) Is constantly asking for large amounts of money from you or
others.
33) Threatens suicide or other forms of self-harm.
34) Deliberately saying or doing things that result in getting
themselves seriously hurt.
35) Monitors your communications (emails, phone calls, chats) with
others.
36) Only interacts with you in a kinky or sexual manner as if role-
playing.
37) Will not have normal everyday vanilla conversations.
38 Never shows you their human side. Is emotionless. Hides their vulnerability behind their D/s role.
39) Has multiple online identities for interacting with the same communities.
40) Disappears from communication for days or weeks at a time
without explanation.
41) Is rude to public servants such as waitresses, cashiers and
janitors.
42) Never says thank you, excuse me or I am sorry to anyone.
Disclaimer.. . I did not write this... this came from the net. If you would like to add this to your profile or journal, please feel free to do so. This list is for other souls there so that they may be better educated and prepared. There are a lot of wonderful people out there, but there are also a lot of unsavory ones, both male and female. Be safe out there everyone.[/COLOR][/SIZE]
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My Ideal Person:
Not too sure that I am looking for anything other then friendship. Some female dominant friends to help me gang up on my sub would be fun. Just here to baby sit my group since they cannot seem to abide by the rules when I am no there. Hopefully I will make some new friends along the way.
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